Blessing of the Rings
November 11, 2010
Blessing of the Rings 1
May these rings remind you that your love, like the sun, warms all that it touches, like the moon, brightens up the night, like the eye, is a gateway to your innermost soul. And your love, like the arms that embrace you, makes everything right with the world.
Blessing of the Rings 2
May the vows and promises you have made today be as ever-present in your hearts as these rings are on your fingers.
Blessing of the Rings 3
May these wedding rings be a reminder to BRIDE and GROOM of the commitment they have made today and be as a testimony to all the world of their devotion in marriage.
Blessing of the Rings 4
Wear these rings as the enclosing bond of reverence and trust. Fulfill the circle of love that now makes you one.
Blessing of the Ring 5
May these rings henceforth be the chaste and changeless symbol of your evermore pure and unending affection.
Blessing of the Ring 6
May these rings be blessed as the symbol of this affectionate unity. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go, may they always return to one another in their togetherness. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women yearn. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home, which they establish together, be such a place of sanctuary that many will find there a friend. May these rings, on their fingers, symbolize the touch of the spirit of love in the heart.
Parents Consent
November 11, 2010
Parent’s Consent 1
Who gives this woman to be married to this man?
Parent’s Consent 2
Who gives this man and woman to be married to each other?
Parent’s Consent 3
Our Lord Jesus Christ instructed us about marriage when he said in the Book of Mark, Chapter 10, “For from the very first He made man and woman to be joined together permanently in marriage; therefore a man is to leave his father and mother, and he and his wife are united so that they are no longer two, but one.” Within the spirit of this scripture, ___ and ___ would like to receive the blessing of their parents on this holy union.
Parents please rise. Do you give your blessing to this man and woman to be married to each other?
Parents say, “We do.”
Parent’s Consent 4
Being assured that your love and your choice of each other as lifelong companions is in God’s will and that you have your families’ blessings, I now ask: Who gives this woman to be married to this man?
Parent’s Consent 5
This wedding is also a celebration of family. It is the blending of two families that have been separate up to this moment, but united from this day forward – blending their different traditions, strengthening the family tree. To honor this uniting of the families, (Groom and Bride) wish to ask their parent’s blessing.
(To Bride’s Mom and Dad)
_______ and ______ do you offer this couple your goodwill? Do you welcome (groom) as a member of your family and give him your love and affection? PARENTS SAY: We do.
(To Groom’s Mom and Dad)
______ and ______, do you offer this couple your goodwill? Do you welcome (bride) as a member of your family and give her your love and affection? PARENTS SAY: We do.
Parent’s Consent 6
I’ve never met a father who was willing to give up his daughter, so instead I ask, do I have your blessing for this marriage?
Parent’s Consent 7
The relationship between children and their parents is one that’s often understated, yet very deep. And one of the rare occasions when it can be publicly acknowledged is at a wedding ceremony.
On this occasion, (parents) proudly stand here beside their daughter representing her family. And (groom’s parents) proudly stands beside their son representing his family. They are displaying, for all of us to see, their individual and combined love for BRIDE and GROOM.
Who brings this man and woman to be married to each other?
“We do.”
And are you all willing to sustain and strengthen this marriage by giving BRIDE and GROOM the public commitment of your love and support through all the ups and downs ahead of them?
“We are.”
Parent’s Consent 8
The marriage of BRIDE and GROOM brings together two different families; two unique story lines, so a new chapter in their lives can begin to unfold.
Though this relationship was formed out of the love these two have found in each other, their marriage will ultimately be blessed by the support of their families.
Who stands with this woman to symbolize her family’s support of this union?
“I do”—–”We do”—or —”Her mother and I do”
Who stands with this man to symbolize his family’s support of this union?
“I do”—-”We do”—or—”His mother and I do”
Parent’s Consent 9
The marriage of BRIDE and GROOM is more than just the union of two people in love. It’s also the joining of two families, of two sets of friends and of two patterns of life.
Who stands with this woman in support and blessing of this marriage?
“I do” or “Her Mother and I do”
Who stands with this man in support and blessing of this marriage?
“I do” or “His Mother and I do”
As these two people join together in marriage, they ask for the support and love of not only their families, but of their friends as well.
On this day, they ask that you be more than only friends of BRIDE or only friends of GROOM. They ask that you recognize their special union and welcome them both as your friends in your lives.
Parent’s Consent 10
A successful marriage is made up of two people, each putting the other before themselves and giving to that person 100% first, last, and always.
However, as BRIDE and GROOM’s journey unfolds there will be opportunities and challenges that will strain, and perhaps even weaken, them. They may move back and forth between the seasons of their love, sometimes strong as the autumn harvest time, and sometimes tender, tentative, and fragile as the springtime shoots that brave the frost. In those times they will need the support and caring of all of you who have come to celebrate this joyous union.
So in the joining of these two families, I ask all of you to take a vow in their presence and in the presence of each other.
Do you pledge to honor and support their marriage? Do you pledge to be neutral and support them equally? And will you always be there for them and embrace them with the love of family and the joy of sharing your lives with them?
“We will.”
Bride and Groom Thank You
November 8, 2010
Bride and Groom stand now before those that they love and that love them. Those that have raised them, taught them, supported them and shaped them.
Most importantly, have given them not only the capacity to love, but to understand it and the desire to return it.
Because of that they are able to stand now across from each other – to take the limitless wealth that you have all given them in spirit, in time, in love – and return it.
Not just to themselves. not just to you.
But to the memory of those passed.
And to the hope for those yet to be.
Without everyone here today, no one is here today.
And for that, Bride and Groom both knowing that language often fails emotion, say, simply, “thank you.”
Westlake Village Inn Wedding: Jun + Jason
November 8, 2010
This weekend I had the pleasure of marrying Jun & Jason as the Westlake Village Inn. This hotel has many beautiful locations within the property, but one of my favorites is the Tuscan Gardens, where today’s ceremony took place.
From the Westlake Village Inn, “A fairytale come true, the Tuscan Garden offers a charming spot for an intimate wedding. Floral agrarian arbors arch over the earthen pathway that leads the bridal guests to their white chairs, which in turn encircle the rustic Tuscan accent and picturesque fountain. A perfectly pastoral setting for your romantic beginnings.”
Jason wrote these kinds words on Yelp earlier today.
My wife and I were not the type who planned out their wedding 1+ years in advance. So when we hooked up with Eric to serve at our wedding it was a big relief. Eric composed a beautiful ceremony which allowed us to be scrambling with all of the other activities instead. At the ceremony, Eric was extremely well spoken, relaxing, and confident. When you are standing in front of everyone, you definitely will feel as though the wedding is about you. Everything went off as planned, which is a credit to Eric’s ability.
I’d also like to add that meeting Eric was a breeze. He is very accommodating to busy work schedules, was very friendly right from the start, and was up for anything and background of the couple. He even did some research on a tea ceremony although we ultimately did not do one at the ceremony. Definitely one of the best officiants I’ve come across from all of the weddings I have attended. Glad he was ours!
Preparation for the Rings
November 8, 2010
Prepares the bride and groom for the ring exchange.
Preparation for the Rings 1
The ring is an ancient symbol, so perfect and simple. It has no beginning and has no end. It is round like the sun, like the moon, like the eye, like arms that embrace. It is a circle; for love that is given comes back round again.
Your rings are precious because you wear them with love. They symbolize your commitment in marriage. They remind you of who you are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going. As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are as individuals, but also who you are a couple.
Preparation for the Rings 2
These rings are made of precious metals; purified by the heat of many fires. They are a symbol of the wealth that resides inside each of you and the purity of your love for one another.
Preparation for the Rings 3
Though we have heard the vows, which have been shared by BRIDE and GROOM, words, once spoken, are carried away on the wind. Therefore, the wedding ring is a visible symbol of the promises that have been made.
Preparation for the Rings 4
The circle has frequently been used to symbolize eternity.
The ring, like the circle, is a reminder of the perfection and endurance of BRIDE and GROOM’s commitment to and love for one another.
Preparation for the Rings 5
These rings represent the vows and promises you’ve willingly exchanged. They reflect the commitment those words inspire and all your hopes and dreams for the future.
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Let us now have the rings brought forward and presented by the ring-bearer.
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May these rings symbolize your inherent wholeness and unity with one another, giving you the strength to happily honor your commitments to each other. May they remind you that marriage is not a destination but a journey, with no beginning and no end, just a moment to moment opportunity to love and be loved to the best of your ability.
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Throughout human tradition, when you make a pledge, it has been deemed good to have a token to remind you of that pledge. For this purpose you have chosen rings.
They are appropriate to the task because they are circles never ending, like the promises you make to each other today. And they are made of precious metal, never to be tarnished, like the love you have expressed before me and these witnesses. Please take these rings and honor each other in their giving.
Preparation for the Rings 9
A circle is the ancient symbol of wholeness and peace. It also represents the boundaries beyond which the special ness of a particular relationship does not extend. In the form of a ring the circle is the accepted token of a marriage covenant.
As these rings are fashioned from one of the earth’s most precious materials, so may your love, nourished and sustained by the love of God, be the most precious and durable of the values you share.
In giving and receiving these rings, you again acknowledge that your lives remain joined in one unbroken circle, wherever you go, you will always return to your shared life together.
Preparation for the Rings 10
The wedding ring is a symbol of married love, the precious metals show that your love is your most precious possession, and the unending circle symbolizes that your love may never cease.
Preparation for the Rings 11
Marriage is a state in which two people come together and create a union that is greater than the sum of its parts. It is difficult to express in words the profound relationship that is love.
Since the beginning of time, the ring has been an emblem of the sincerity and permanence of a couple’s love for one another and regard for their marriage.
As the circle can begin anew at any point, so a good marriage can pick any point to renew itself. These rings are symbols of your eternal love.
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The ring is a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.
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I hold in my hand two beautiful rings, symbolic of a binding contract, to be given and received as bonds of never-ending love and devoted friendship, circles of life and circles of love. May these rings be blessed as the symbol of this affectionate unity.
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Bless, O Lord, these rings to be signs of the vows by which this man and this woman have bound themselves to each other. Amen.
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What token of your devotion do you offer your beloved?
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May the Lord bless these rings which you give as your sign of love and devotion. Amen.
Preparation for the Rings 17
Now with these rings, symbolizing the continuous circle of unity and love with the marriage relationship, and ultimately symbolizing the unity and wholeness within the Self, ____ and ____ will finalize their vows.
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From the earliest of times, the circle has been a symbol of completeness, a symbol of committed love. An unbroken and never-ending circle symbolized a commitment of love that is also never ending. As often as either of you looks at this symbol, I hope that you will be reminded of these commitments to one another, which you make today. May these rings be blessed by God as the changeless symbol of this affectionate unity.
Preparation for the Rings 19
The giving and receiving of rings is the most important part of a marriage ceremony, because the rings are made in the symbol of that which is eternal. There is no beginning and no end, and as you place these symbols on each other’s finger, it signifies that there shall be no end to your marriage, and no end to the happiness that you will both share together. But let me remind you that these are also the special symbols you will wear before the world, certainly when you go back to your family, and friends, and co-workers. In fact, you will notice the response when you walk away from this beautiful place tonight. For when people look at you, they will look at your hand and notice the ring on your finger. They will know that you belong to someone special and that someone special belongs to you. Everyday for the rest of your lives, every time you wash your hands or reach out to touch each other, these rings will be there to remind you of the great love that you share and of the wonder that the person standing in front of you loves you as much as you love them. So when you place these rings upon each other’s fingers, wear them with love and with honor.
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Wedding rings are an outward and visible sign of an inward spiritual grace and the unbroken circle of love, signifying to all the union of this man and this woman in marriage.
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These rings mark a new beginning in your journey together, filled with wonder, surprise, laughter, tears, celebration, grief and joy.
Let us pray: Bless, O god, the giving of these rings, that they who wear them may live in your peace and realized potential. Amen.
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The wedding ring is justly regarded as a fitting emblem of the purity and perpetuity of marriage. It is symbolic of the circle of eternity, as it is so fashioned as to have neither beginning nor end; while gold is so incorruptible that it cannot be tarnished by use or by time. So may this marriage, at this time celebrated, be incorruptible in its purity and more lasting than time itself.
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The ring is an ancient symbol, perfect and simple. It has no beginning and has no end. It is round like the sun, like the moon, like the eye, like arms that embrace. It is a circle: for love that is given comes back round again.
Your rings are precious because you wear them with love. They symbolize your commitment in marriage. They remind you of who you are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going. As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are as individuals, but also who you are as a couple.
Preparation for the Rings 24
And so we come Bride and Groom, to the presentation of rings by which you symbolize and bind your love.
The circle has long been a symbol of spirit and the power of God. The sky and the earth are round. The wind in its greatest power whirls. The sun and moon, both round, come forth and go down again in a circle. Even the seasons form a great circle in their changing and always come back again to where they were. Without beginning or end and with no point of weakness, the circle is a reminder of the eternal quality of God and of unending strength. Let the seamless circle of these rings become the symbol of your endless love and unending faithfulness. Your wedding rings are most special because they say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bonded, to allow the presence of another human being to enhance who you are. Your rings carry a potent double message: We are individuals and yet we belong; we are not alone. As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are but also the glorious union that you are now creating.
God, bless these rings and the two who exchange them. Fill them with your Holy Presence. Keep them safe in the circle of Your protection and love.
Ring Warming 25
Having this love in their hearts for each other BRIDE and GROOM have chosen to exchange rings as a symbol of their vows. The wedding rings are the most visible sign of the bond these two people are about to make. A commitment to life, to each other and to the future.
What I now ask BRIDE and GROOM’s families to do is to warm these rings by passing them down the row. As you hold them in your hands, pause for a moment, and make your wishes for the couple and for their future before you pass them on to the next person.
These rings will not only be a gift from one to another but will be given with the love, support and wisdom of their family and friends.
Ring Warming 26
Before BRIDE and GROOM say their vows and exchange rings, they have asked that the people before them participate in the “warming of the rings.” If you are unfamiliar with this ceremony, take the opportunity to wish them health, happiness, and all that is noble and good in life when the rings pass to your care. Hold them for but a moment and warm them with your love, making a silent wish for the future this couple will share. When returned, these rings will contain in their precious metals that which is all the more precious–your love and pledge of support for their union.
Adamson House: Andrea + Ryan
November 6, 2010
10/10/10 was a busy day for me. I was performed four wedding ceremonies and traveled from Ventura to Oxnard to Malibu to Culver City. I had an amazing time, but more importantly, eight people celebrated their love by getting married.
My third ceremony that day was held at the Adamson House in Malibu. Alumiq Productions filmed the wedding of Andrea and Ryan.
